Staying Focused on What We Can Control
When it comes to strong-willed and defiant kids, it can be easy to get pulled into power struggles over things we cannot control. In this short video, Dr. Charles Fay...
Walking the Rescue Tightrope
Do you ever feel like you are walking on a tightrope? On one side of the narrow line is a scary drop into “Overprotection Canyon” while the other side offers...
Raising Good Human Beings
I recently asked a wise friend a question: How do we ensure that we are raising good human beings? The wise friend responded with another question: What do we mean by a...
The Best Advice for Helping Kids with Special Needs
“Err on the side of believing they are capable.” Those words changed my life. I sat in Dr. Charles Fay’s office and told him stories of the extreme challenges presented...
Park the Snow Plow
In the 1970s, Jim Fay warned of the perils of parenting like a helicopter. Constant hovering and unnecessary rescuing send kids unspoken messages that they MUST be fragile because they...
Am I Selfish for Taking Care of Myself?
First, I want to give a very complex answer to this question: No! No, it’s not selfish to take good care of yourself. It’s smart. But since they expect me...
Finding the Downtime Balance
For many families in the Love and Logic Universe, a holiday break is approaching which will create chunks of time when kids are in the house (not at school and...
The Gift of Practicing Gratitude
It can be an easy thing to say: “Be thankful”. We are often trying to get our kids to express outward gratitude. It’s the polite thing to do. But what...
